Don’t Just “Fix” Me

God realizes the deep sense of validation that comes from being heard.  He understands why we need to be heard because He needs to be heard.

Even though He can “fix” all problems of everyone everywhere, He doesn’t bombard us with the solution when we experience problems.  Hurts and wounding often need to be discussed… “talked out” as it were, and Abba understands the need for it.  I find it frustrating when friends (though well-intentioned) are so energetically lending their solutions to my problems that they basically talk on top of my expression of the pain.  Emoting is necessary, IMO; since God allows me to express myself, I believe He also appreciates the necessity.

Some people just want Him to fix things because that’s how they’re geared.  At first, I admit I was going to say “men” just want to solve and be solved, but that’s not accurate or fair.  I’ve encountered the “fix it” mentality in both genders, and I’m not condemning those who place priority on enacting solutions.  I’m just saying I’m not that kind of person.  I like to talk first about what’s going on with me so that, among other things, I can HEAR MYSELF speaking, because sometimes I’m not clear on where I stand unless I talk things out with God and those I love.  People just wanting to squelch my expressions and get on with “fixing” me only stifle the very emotions I’m trying to liberate.

God doesn’t do that.  Even though He has all the answers, His heart is intensely relational, and that quality within Him welcomes my intimate sharing.  Just as allowing a wound to bleed-through before applying the salve and patch promotes healing, God allows my tears to soak His shoulders and my arms to tighten around His waist to bring relief… He lets me just stand there and cry without even trying to fix me.  That’s important.

Certainly I get sorted out and delivered by Him in time, but it’s through the tender process of His considerate strength and counsel; I respond best to that.

I am deeply relational – it’s part of the reason I write.  I love to express myself and hear the expressions of others, but not everyone is like that.  Those who are not as relational prefer to have their problems solved, not discussed.  God understands that.  So He is tendering me to the needs of people who have difficulty expressing themselves… after all, it’s not a sin – it’s a difference.  God is amazing.

Lord, I thank You for always hearing me out and for Your willingness to lift the lid on my boiling pots so steam can escape.  Thank You also, Abba, for supplying gentle, methodic solutions to all of my problems, elevating my understanding in the process.  You are wonderful.

Your humility has visited my heart like a dear friend, teaching me always that I hold no quarter on emotions or feelings – we are all different, and our uniqueness is precious in Your sight, everlasting.

Dear Father, help me always to receive and consider others as You have received and considered me; in Christ’s precious Name I pray.  Amen.

SHAMMA   =0)


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